@c-i-v saidNot sure why you keep linking what I am saying to the word liberal. There is a danger that debates on RHP always become linked to one of two American political camps for some reason. There are more than two philosophical outlooks in the world and so far as I am aware people who are successful dealing with negative behaviour are not particularly linked to any particular political persuasion.
@Relentless-Red
And when those methods don't work? What would you do?
Lets role play.
I'm the kid. You're the dad.
"Take your 3 strikes and count to three's and shove it dad!"
(At this point I take a a bowl of soup and throw it against the wall and laugh at you)
What would you do?
Kids today know they can't get hit so those pre-school methods only work on to ...[text shortened]... with kids of today while being limited by liberal parenting methods.
Count to 3? Lord have mercy 🙄
The approaches to which I refer can be used in 'tough love' models which I do not think are a part of one particular political philosophy. In fact one criticism often aimed at people who are too liberal is that they do not follow through with the consequences and so what they are saying has no teeth in the child's eyes.
The point of difference is that you don't react with the severe chastisement, whether words or physical. You remain measured and in control and you offer the child a way of putting things right to avoid the consequence being delivered. This only gets the best outcome over time if the child knows from experience that the consequence will consistently happen if they don't put it right, but it gives them a chance to redeem themselves and to practice doing something positive. It also gives them a chance to see an authority figure being measured and fair so they learn about that way of being.
To be honest you can see this measured style (you need to start getting it right now or there will be a consequence) being used well by experienced police and security who did not dive in like their naïve colleagues. In my experience these are not necessarily people with particularly liberal philosophies at all.
@eladar saidNever ever laid a hand on my wife but she has clattered me a few times, once she threw a guinness glass at me(lucky for me it was empty)
Have you seen The Quiet Man?
Here is a stick to beat the lovely lady.
@badradger saidSo no children? Reason asking this what appears to be a silly question. You said: "Never ever laid a hand on my wife", appear no intimacy there! 😉
Never ever laid a hand on my wife but she has clattered me a few times, once she threw a guinness glass at me(lucky for me it was empty)
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@very-rusty saidyou got a d in anatomy VR sperm is not ejeculated out of my fingers.
So no children? Reason asking this what appears to be a silly question. You said: "Never ever laid a hand on my wife", appear no intimacy there! 😉
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@badradger saidLOL@ Badge, did you turn into a weasel? You have to touch the woman to get the other things flowing so to speak! 🙂
you got a d in anatomy VR sperm is not ejeculated out of my fingers.
I've been told I do very well in anatomy by the way. 😛
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@very-rusty saidBy the creepy guy at the bus stop?
I've been told I do very well in anatomy by the way. 😛
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@ghost-of-a-duke saidSorry Ghost, I didn't see you there or would have acknowledged you! 😛.
By the creepy guy at the bus stop?
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@very-rusty saidThat's pretty funny.
Sorry Ghost, I didn't see you there or would have acknowledged you! 😛.
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@very-rusty saidI do actually. It's the best way to get around London. (That and the Underground).
LOL...I doubt either one of us take the buses! 😉
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@ghost-of-a-duke saidOK, so you do take the buses, I don't. From what I hear you'd have to carry an umbrella around or get wet. Get many creepy guys lurking around since you did mention it? 😉
I do actually. It's the best way to get around London. (That and the Underground).
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@ghost-of-a-duke saidLove public transport in London. 😍
I do actually. It's the best way to get around London. (That and the Underground).
@torunn saidLiving in Sweden do you make many trips to London?
Love public transport in London. 😍
You and Ghost should get together for a meet up.
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@very-rusty saidI have been in London many times, with different people. You never grow tired of it.
Living in Sweden do you make many trips to London?
You and Ghost should get together for a meet up.
-VR