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What do I do if I was verbally harassed in a game with the comment "OK SIR...I TRUST THIS WILL BE DEFINITIVE AND CLEAR ENOUGH FOR YOU....GO F*** YOURSELF! HOWS THAT?" in one of my games with another user.

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name and shame...

or send feedback

T

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his/her user name is sitch629. Is this comment reportable?

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I would call it abuse...

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Originally posted by TheHumanFritz
What do I do if I was verbally harassed in a game with the comment "OK SIR...I TRUST THIS WILL BE DEFINITIVE AND CLEAR ENOUGH FOR YOU....GO F*** YOURSELF! HOWS THAT?" in one of my games with another user.
he only has 16 games and is still provisional. i suspect that he would be abusive to others if he was that way with you. if several players report him, then i presume that he will be banned, or warned, and then banned, if he does that again.

however, having said that, we cannot know all the comments that led up to why he would send you that message. i'm not saying that his message was okay, but that we don't know what your prior messages to him might have been. the mods and managers can check that out, i suppose.

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Move 70 TheHumanFritz
Sorry I do not understand vulgar langauge. What did you say again?


Move 70 sitch629
OK SIR...I TRUST THIS WILL BE DEFINITIVE AND CLEAR ENOUGH FOR YOU....GO F*** YOURSELF! HOWS THAT?


Move 69 TheHumanFritz
Yes or no? I want a definitive response.


Move 68 TheHumanFritz
draw?


Move 67 TheHumanFritz
Why dont u repond?


Move 66 TheHumanFritz
Hey you know its funny how you wait till the very last minute before you make your move. Why don't you just accept the loss? And rematch me?

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Originally posted by TheHumanFritz
Move 70 TheHumanFritz
Sorry I do not understand vulgar langauge. What did you say again?


Move 70 sitch629
OK SIR...I TRUST THIS WILL BE DEFINITIVE AND CLEAR ENOUGH FOR YOU....GO F*** YOURSELF! HOWS THAT?


Move 69 TheHumanFritz
Yes or no? I want a definitive response.


Move 68 TheHumanFritz
draw?


Move 67 TheHumanFritz
Why dont ...[text shortened]... very last minute before you make your move. Why don't you just accept the loss? And rematch me?
i see. that's clear enough.

well, first, the problem is that you were pressing a player who uses the clock to drag out his games. lots of players in RHP do that. might as well get used to it and be ready to move on and forget about it.

for the non-subs, they HATE being stuck on a game where they can't move. those games tie them up since they can only have six games. a sub can sit for a month of a move on vacation and take the full count for every move, causing the other player to be very frustrated. this is what got to you.

what i'm getting at is that you offer a draw, he refuses, and your insistence on an answer bordered on harrassment of him. so, if he never said comments like that to anyone else, he was just having a bad moment and will probably just go on with his life like it never happened.

report him if you like, but my advice is to just go on with your own games and try not to let the clock laggers get to you.

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That was all the messages that we got. Our position is almost even now I think and I wanted a draw and then all of a sudden he gave me the f-bomb. I only asked him why he kept delaying the game (for a week now) once, so I do not think I harassed him.

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i understand. i'm just telling you how it looks to me and i wasn't playing and we never communicated before this. i am not saying that what he wrote to you was okay. it wasn't.

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Personally I think it's a bit annoying when people try to offer a draw through a message. If you seriously want to offer a draw, just do it through the official mechanism. If the opponent moves, then there's your answer. Otherwise you could just be screwing with the person-- "Want a draw?" "OK." "Hmm... maybe his position is weaker than I thought. I think I'll play on."

It's not justified for him to swear at you, but IMO you did do something to provoke him by offering the draw that way and then pushing him on it.

And as for dragging out the moves... you never really have a right to complain when the person is moving within the time limits that you both agreed on when the game started. It's only a 1/0 game, so it's not like he can drag it out that much. If you want faster than 1/0, you need to play a live game.

Basically you sent 4 messages in a row provoking him, so it shouldn't be much of a surprise that he eventually fired back.

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Hey sent me a message saying "maybe." I offered him the draw in the game anyways but he sent me a message saying maybe so I asked for a yes or no response because I thought the positoin was even at the time. And then he goes ahead giving me the f-bomb.

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When I get a message I find offensive, I (most often) answer friendly. Next time I point out, in nice words (usually), that I found it offending. The third time I tell him that I put him of my ignore list if he continues. If he despite this continue I put him on my ignore list after a short message that I do. Alas, my problems are over. When the game is over I delete him from the ignore list.

I never (try to anyway) stop offensive messages with another offensive messages. It's like putting out fire with gasoline.

We're here to play chess. Well, let’s play chess and enjoy it, that's my motto.

If anyone's trying to force a draw by messages, I would find it annoying. But I would never use vulgar language for that reason. I would just tell him to stop annoying me and continue to play chess. If he want a draw and I find I can win the game, then he has to prove his point by playing, not by arguing.

I do not comment this particular game until it is over.

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Originally posted by TheHumanFritz
What do I do if I was verbally harassed in a game with the comment "OK SIR...I TRUST THIS WILL BE DEFINITIVE AND CLEAR ENOUGH FOR YOU....GO F*** YOURSELF! HOWS THAT?" in one of my games with another user.
I don't believe the title is accurate as you haven't been VERBALLY harassed.

I think the word you were looking for was TEXTICULARLY harassed.

Anyway, you have a few options, send feedback, place player on ignore. Up to you.

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User 97934 was banned for the same reason.

He started harrassing me in Game 3776080, accusing me of using an engine and my mom. 😠 Also banned for having multiple accounts.