Originally posted by telerion
The following two posts are a response to The Chess Express's latest post. Thank you again for your patience.
Don’t be too hasty. The choices you gave both have meaning and moral value.
1. The choice of a spouse or a lover.
Fornication is wrong according to the Bible. You may have a different opinion about this, but in reality not having sex you would like me to explain, just let me know. (continued)
First, with the exception of STD's, waiting to have sex before marriage does not contribute to stopping the things you list. I have that straight from a xian marriage counselor, a counselor at a xian-based program in fact, not just a marriage counselor who is xian.
[/b]I’m not sure what your “Christian” counselor said, but as I understand it the majority of the experts, whether Christian or not, agree that avoiding sex before marriage helps to build a stronger relationship.
“Virginity has proven to be a sound answer throughout the ages because it builds mutual respect and trust in a relationship. Virginity is a very viable solution, despite the messages from contraceptive manufacturers and health professionals that young people must be involved in permissive sex.”
http://www.forerunner.com/forerunner/X0865_Virginity_in_Vogue.html
Here is a non-Christian source.
“The lifetime divorce rate such as it is appears to be falling -- to roughly 43%, according to the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University. Tim Heaton of Brigham Young University, Provo, Utah, is among researchers who see a decline. He believes two factors are at work: The rising average age at marriage, and increased education levels. These two trends are more than offsetting other forces that are linked to failed marriages, including more premarital sex and more marriages between partners from different racial and religious backgrounds, Dr. Heaton says in a study published in April 2002 in the Journal of Family Issues.”
http://www.careerjournal.com/columnists/workfamily/20040423-workfamily.html
In any case, we can both agree that STD’s is a serious problem and is more likely to be avoided by avoiding premarital sex.
But I better get to the point. I was careful with the examples of meaningful choices that I gave. Particularly, I wanted to ensure that none of them necessarily implied an evil action. I have no problems with God allowing only good actions. (You may want to interject here that good ---> evil, but hang on a bit and I'll explain later.). The choice of a spouse need not be evil. You have chosen to consider a particular type of choice of spouse that, in your opinion, is an evil choice. I'm thinking in more general terms. Assuming all the preconditions you want are satisfied, choosing one person to marry over another is a morality-free decision.
Actually I was referring to a lover vs. a husband/wife. Even if everybody in the world was good, your question may be loaded. Are there such things as soul mates? Just because two people are good and are attracted to each other does not necessarily mean that they are compatible.
Again, I have no problem with good choices. I want to see if we can eliminate evil ones and keep free will. Yes, donating to a needy family is a good action and is recommeded by most philosophies, and yes, stealing would most likely be evil. The problem here is that you ignore the more complete opposite to giving: not giving.
If I consider donating to a food bank, I don't think, "Well, I've got one of two options. I can either give them some canned goods, or I can steal everything from their shelves." When I consider donating, I can either choose to give or not give. Not giving does not mean that I have to steal from them. Let me point out here that 'not giving' need not be evil. Again, I'll explain later.
I agree that deciding to not give to a charity does not obligate one to steal from it, but let me ask you this. How can an action that is supposed to be neutral lead to so much evil? Suppose nobody gave anything to anybody. No government grants, scholarships, social security, homeless shelters, foreign aid, etc, suppose the world was like this. How much evil would that lead to? I’m not saying that everybody should give all the time to charity, but to not give at all is evil in as much as it contributes to a world that doesn’t give.
It’s like I said, often times the choice not to do good leads to evil by default.
And again I have no problem with good actions. The primary question of this discussion was really whether evil actions can be eliminated and leave free will intact. I've proved this quite a while back. These examples show that evil actions can be restricted and the resulting choices do need not to be 'meaningless' ones as you say.
I’m not convinced by your examples. All of the examples that you gave affect people for better or worse. The example that I gave about deciding between multiple #2 pencils to take a test with was a better example of a truly neutral choice, and it was also quite meaningless. This is why our existence would be meaningless if our actions had no moral value.
Just off hand doesn't it seem odd to you to argue that we need the choice to rape a child in order to have meaning?
What’s the alternative? No free will would lead to mindless robots, and if we can’t make that choice then we have no free will. It is necessary for evil to exist in order for us to know evil. It is necessary for us to know evil to know what good is. Raping a child is just one example of an evil action. There are plenty to choose from.
In order to counter my examples you implicitly appealed to the idea that an action that is not good is necessarily evil. I shall explain why choosing not to do a good action is not equivalent to choosing to do an evil action. Take my third example, 'read to a child.' You suggest above that not choosing to read to a child is an evil action and therefore the only reason this 'read to a child' is a meaningful choice is because it is a moral decision. The truth is not reading to a child is not generally an evil action.
I will prove this without using sets or reference to formal logic. Instead, I will show a proof by contradiction through an example. Say that a parent, due to time contraints, can only choose two actions to do with her child one evening. First, she can read to her child, or she can discuss how her child's day went. Now I think you would agree that both of these acts can be generally called good, but this is where your good/evil strict seperation leads to a paradox. If the parent chooses to read to her child, then she chooses not to discuss her child's day. Her child's day is a good action and so choosing not to discuss must be evil (by your and DF's view). Therefore by reading to her child the parent has chosen an evil action. But we already said that reading to her child was a good action. Therefore reading to her child is a good and evil action, but this is not possible because an action cannot be both good and evil. Given that both actions the parent could have chosen were good actions, the only logical conclusion is that not choosing a good action is not necessarily choosing an evil action.
I agree that both reading to a child and discussing the child’s day with him/her are good actions for the same underlying reason,
the parent is spending time with their child. This is what gives both choices moral value and makes them good. If we ask ourselves what is the reverse of this, the answer is to not spend time with the child, or possibly to not spend enough time with the child. We would both agree I think that it is evil for a parent to not spend enough time with there children as this will probably lead to developmental problems.
The point is simply that without the reason that gives the choice moral value, the choice is meaningless. It would be meaningless for a person to sit and discuss the day’s events with an inanimate object. A rock has no free will, does not know good or evil, and will develop the same way regardless. Without free will we would be like rocks. Without good and evil we would know neither and thus our existence would be meaningless.
Take this to real life and the contradiction becomes even more stark. We usually have many more than just two good actions available. By the strict 'not good choice = evil choice' dichotomy everyone is commiting evil acts all the time. By this standard, even Jesus commited evil acts constantly.
As I have said I agree with you that some choices are not good or evil. Where we differ is that you think these types of choices have meaning and I do not. Jesus did things that had meaning and lead to the greater good.
Example: Vaccines, a child gets pricked by a needle (evil) to avoid a horrible disease (good), thus vaccines lead to the greater good. Confusing? Nobody ever said it was going to be easy. 🙂
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