@Ghost-of-a-Duke
Would you agree that Genesis 24:50-51 and Genesis 29:15-19 speak approvingly of fathers who forced their daughters to marry men they had just met without asking their opinion?
Laban is not spoken of approvingly in the Bible, IMO.
In the case of Rebekah in
Genesis 24 she was ASKED if she was WILLING to go and marry the mysterious lover. She was wooed with presents and the tale and wanted to go back with Abraham's servant to marry Issac.
She agreed.
"And they called Rebekah and said to her, Will you go with this man? and she said, I will go." (Gen. 24:58)
She could have refused.
Genesis chapter 29:
"Now Laban had two daughters. The older daughter was named Leah, and the younger one was Rachel. There was no sparkle in Leah’s eyes,[a] but Rachel had a beautiful figure and a lovely face. Since Jacob was in love with Rachel, he told her father, “I’ll work for you for seven years if you’ll give me
In this case I agree that Jacob was tricked into marrying Leah.
Laban, in whom Jacob met his match, outsmarted him and took advantage of his great yearning for Rachel to get his employment for as long as he could.
Now this he said was the custom of the land. that is to marry off the oldest girl first. He couldn't say, this was the law of God. This was also before the giving of the law.
So I'll give you that Leah seems to say nothing about it.
There is nothing in subsequent chapters which indicates that she did not love Jacob. So I have to conclude that she wanted to marry him, though it was done in such a way.
So Jacob ended up with two wives - Leah and Rachel.
There is no question that Rachel was his favorite. And it was for Rachel that he originally labored for decades to secure her hand in marriage.
INTERESTINGLY ENOUGH ... when he died he requested that LEAH be buried with him in the cave of Macpelah. His favorite love of his life, Rachel, was not buried with him, but the unfavored FIRST woman he seems to have considered God's will for him as his one wife.
God had ordained one man for one woman in creation of man. And I would be willing to bet that though Jacob had TWO wives and his favorite was his second one, he realized that God's will was that Leah under divine providence was his wife according to the will of God.
To your point though - I don't see Leah as being forced to marry Jacob. And I think Rachel was a willing second bride.
Now, you might look to David's behavior for him committing statutory rape and rather (conveniently contrived) marriage of Bathsheba. But we all should know God was displeased and punished him.
Remember there is a difference in what the Bible TEACHES as to have been the ordination of God and what it RECORDS has some person/s as having done.