@petewxyz said
I am a big believer in the idea that it is important to identify the places where you will thrive by understanding and seeking the settings that match what you were rehearsing for. It's not about trying to be 'normal' it's about identifying where your journey would naturally take you. I remember thinking that a medical school was like a giant sorting house as people were mat ...[text shortened]... er like soul music and hate rock music or vice versa. It's a long time ago but it felt like a truth!
The sorting house analogy is good.
Indeed, in a sense, University (and to a lesser degree high school) are meant to function as sorting houses as people discover the sort of field they could thrive in and what sort of work they are honestly pursuing.
I am honestly grateful for some of the bad experiences taht I had because, in retrospect, I realize that they taught me what I really wanted to do, and the sort of people I really wanted to be around.
I think... the difficult part is understanding the fine line between
something we really shouldn't be doing and
something that's just really hard and we need to apply ourselves more in.
For instance, writing a novel isn't easy -- but there are a great deal many passionate writers, many of whom post on forums like this and who are among us
now, who just never have organized themselves enough or gotten the discipline to put it into the form of a novel...
I forget who said it, but a famous writer had even said that
every human has one good novel in them.
I think... novel writing is so difficult, much like, say, playing guitar truly well, that there is required a lot of effort on the part of the person, and they shouldn't give up.
But yes... I totally see how some people try to force the square peg into the round hole their whole lives and it results in major difficulties. You see that
very frequently, particularly among people who want to earn the big bucks.